In the State of Zhao during the Warring States period, two great ministers—Lin Xiangru, a civil official, and Lian Po, a general—initially clashed. Lian Po, proud of his military achievements, resented Lin’s rapid rise. Yet Lin avoided conflict, even enduring public humiliation. When asked why, he replied, “If we fight each other, the Qin state will benefit. I put the nation’s interests above my pride.”
Hearing this, Lian Po felt deep shame. Carrying thorny twigs on his bare back, he knelt before Lin to ask for punishment. From that day on, they became inseparable allies, united for their country’s good.
True strength lies not in winning every battle, but in knowing when to yield. Lin’s wisdom turned an enemy into a lifelong friend. In our own lives, setting aside ego for a greater purpose can transform conflict into harmony—and enmity into enduring trust.