The art of gift-giving lies in timing and restraint. Avoid following the crowd; sending your gift early shows genuine thought. Practical items like alcohol or cigarettes are best, as they can be easily used or passed on. Other gifts may lead to misunderstanding.
If the recipient has no particular need, it’s wiser not to give at all. Forcing a gift only wastes resources. Nor should you give too often—frequent offerings cheapen the gesture and harm your own standing.
It’s best to deliver gifts in advance, preferably in the evening, with quiet grace. Once given, leave promptly. Do not linger or over-explain. Let the recipient enjoy their space.
True wisdom in giving is not about value, but about knowing when, what, and when to stop.